The greatest love I’ve ever known didn’t come from a romantic partner. It came from me—through the journey of learning to adore myself; & eventually, through the heart of my child.
Growing up with teen parents & being the oldest sibling—I spent a lot of time with self. There was no roadmap, or anyone ahead of me paving the way. That solitude became my greatest gift.
The alone time shaped me. It taught me how to find joy in my own company, how to listen to my intuition, & how to honor my spirit. Now, as an adult—I see just how sacred that foundation is.
The more I poured into myself, the more I was filled. I stopped seeking—stopped trying to prove to others that I was worthy. My independence became my peace & my sanctuary. I learned how to make myself feel beautiful from the inside out. And that self-love didn’t just end with me—it passed down to my daughter.
She is my mirror. She reflects the care & intentional devotion I gave myself long before she was born. That’s how I broke the cycle. I didn’t keep choosing men who didn’t love me, or stay in trauma bonds just to avoid being alone. I chose me. Again & again.
The road was lonely, but the moment I had my baby girl —I felt a love so pure. It changed everything. Although I was young, I knew: this is what unconditional love feels like. I made a vow to never let her feel the loneliness I once felt. I would choose her over money, over status, & over any situation that would take me away from her emotionally.
And I kept that vow. I’ve been present for every milestone. In doing that— I’ve healed my inner child. I’ve healed past generations & future ones too.
What saddens me most is watching women—& even men, neglect their children emotionally while hunting after attention from others. That pattern is generational, & it leaves deep wounds.
What many don’t realize is that the love you give yourself is what mirrors you. If you’re chasing affection, it will always run from you. You have to become love first. That’s when it finds you.
To anyone who yearns for deep appreciation: remember, it starts with you. You don’t need to run after it. Build it within. Let it fill you until it spills over. That’s how it reaches your children, your purpose, & eventually—the partner who sees you clearly.
True love is self-made. And once you create it, it never dies—it’s passed down through your lineage.
Now, I get to share my gift of love in real time with the world—through the official mother-daughter YouTube channel by Mommy & Kendall: the Gen-Z & Gen-Alpha duo you didn’t know you needed.
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