The greatest myth in history about teen & young moms is that they’re unhappy & ashamed of who they are. Society wants you to believe that being an adolescent mother, & balancing growing up at the same time is beyond reach. There are even popular shows that depict the “young parenthood” image in an interesting manner that isn’t always perceived well to the public. This stigma, as well as the opinions of others, portray being a young mom as negative. The general population accepts the stereotype that age determines the quality of motherhood. Even led to believe that moms are “missing out on something”, or their lives are over, & they’ll never reach their dreams now that they are parents. I believe that with balance & a strategic plan for the future, then a young mother can be genuinely happy because they’re prepared & organized to take on the challenge day by day. Step by step. While still being able to nurture their own individual growth by having a positive mindset not only as a mother, but a person who is developing & experiencing life.
Balance:
1♡ a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.
2♡ keep or put (something) in a steady position so that it does not fall.
Here are 7 secrets that will help young mothers balance the transition from being a child to a grown woman with the duties of motherhood ♔:
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Make time for the things that you loved to do before the baby. Your interests & hobbies determine what you like to do to get you excited about life. When you stop doing those exciting things, you can feel like you’ve lost a sense of yourself & who you are. Never lose your creative side. The best thing a mother can do for their child is to be happy, so that their kid will have the best example of how to be happy when they reach the age to comprehend the meaning of their own lives. If you’re living your dreams then your child will feel more inspired & motivated to achieve theirs.
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Create a routine that will accommodate everything that you & your child needs to get accomplished each day. A schedule will ensure that you will make time for yourself; whether it’s for a nap, a day out on the town, or to simply put some makeup on. This will also help your little one develop great habits by planning out their day, so they can have something to look forward to. Spending time with children & meeting their every need is a huge contribution to their childhood. It is healthy to take specific times of the day to fulfill other obligations besides your motherly duties to validate your importance of being an individual; as well as a mom.
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Get up, dress up, & be ready to seize the day! It sounds so simple, but sometimes it can be hard to pay attention to your own appearance when you’re worried about everything your child needs. As a mother, you matter still. Make sure you’re confident enough to represent yourself well so you can be happy. Just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean you need to look like one. Consider yourself to be in the best season of your life when you join the “young moms club” because it should make you stronger & want to be better. You’re somebody’s mother. Wear it as a badge of honor and be an example of who your little one belongs to mind, body, & soul. You will be surprised what a cute hairstyle, one of your fave outfits, & a little makeup can do. It empowers you to take on anything; especially motherhood.
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Take a break. It may sound cliché, but moms need space to decompress too. There’s nothing wrong with reaching out to your loved ones to watch your child if you need some personal time. Of course, do everything within means; but taking a trip to let your hair down, or to hang out with friends to talk about life is necessary from time to time. It helps the journey to balance being a young mom with discovering your path to adulthood by still having a few moments to yourself without your little one.
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Find some things that you & your child love to do together. When you bond over something it makes being around them every day so much more exciting. For example, my daughter Kendall & I love to color & watch silly shows together. It’s something in common that we share to create happiness and love between us. It makes being a young mom so easy when you know exactly what your child needs to be satisfied and appreciated. It makes you feel like you are getting a hold of being the best parent you can be by learning who your child really is so you can love them how they need to be loved. The moments you experience with your kids are the times that they will remember the most when they are older, so have a good time with them & be yourself!
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Express your true feelings to your child so you will never feel alone or misunderstood. Kids can only understand so much, so you will be amazed of how supportive they can be by simply talking with them. If you allow them to, kids can make you feel joyous because they want to be there for you. Sometimes as a young mom your peers can’t relate to you because you had to grow up a little faster. The path you’re on is a little different now because you’re responsible for another soul. You’re protecting a life. Gain an amazing & healthy bond with your child so they can feel your love & to know that you’re always there. I guarantee that they will show you that they will always be there for you too.
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Be optimistic about you & your child’s future. At first it may seem impossible to recognize the beauty in your journey of young motherhood, but as time goes on, you will understand the lessons through your experience. If you live every day with strength, resilience, & positivity, then you will be successful in anything that you put your mind to. This philosophy also includes mastering the craft of being a parent. There’s no handbook or guide to teach you the perfect way to be a young mom, but hope for the future will carry you day by day until you get it right. Stay strong, mommies! You got this! ♔
𝓛𝓸𝓿𝓮,
𝓨𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓑𝓸𝓾𝓰𝓲𝓮 𝓑𝓲𝓰 𝓢𝓲𝓼
𝓣𝓪𝔂𝓵𝓪 ♡
